We Kissed on the Second Date, Now What?

So, you kissed on the second date.

Congratulations. Now, what? 

I remember the last time I didn't kiss a girl until the second date...

It was an exciting yet confusing time. When I was younger, I didn't know how to move forward in the dynamic without rushing things or making it awkward.

This article will help you understand what to do next, from communicating openly to planning your next date and building a deeper connection.

Let's get into it.

Understanding the Significance of the Second Date

Why the Second Date Matters

The first date is all about first impressions. But the second date? That's where you start to see if there's something real.

It's a chance to see if the initial spark can turn into something more. Not everyone makes it to a second date, and that's okay. It’s a natural part of dating.

Setting the Right Expectations

If you want to keep seeing this person, you should have a general idea by the second date. This date is about progress. Since we tend to put on a bit of a front on a first date, you can show off more of your personality and see if you really click.

If all goes well, there might be a future, even if it's not guaranteed.

But just remember, just because you went on one date doesn't mean she's obligated to keep seeing you or vice versa.

Keep things light and fun, but also be open to deeper conversations.

What Happens After the Kiss

There's nothing better than a little steamy makeout. After that happens, paying attention to how you both feel is super important.

Does she seem nervous about what just happened?

Does she seem eager to kiss you more?

The more information you have, the clearer your intuition will be about what should happen next.

However, it might be a good time to talk about it if things felt a little off to you after the kiss.

Here are some ways that you can approach the conversation.

• Talk About It: Tell her how you enjoyed it and ask her opinion. Did it feel right, or did it feel forced? Was she surprised? This will help both of you better understand what happened.

• Address Any Awkwardness: If you feel awkward after the kiss, don’t ignore it. A simple "Hey, that was nice, but was that a bit awkward? Haha" can break the ice.

Remember, communication is key! It can make your connection stronger and help you both feel more comfortable.

Remembering these points can help you navigate the next steps with confidence and clarity. Just like recognizing the signs of attraction, being open about your feelings can lead to a deeper connection.

Planning Your Next Date

If you've been following my guides or you've seen my perfect first date class, you know that I always suggest planning dates when you're in person.

What better moment is there than right after a hot, steamy makeout?

But if you didn't plan a new date in person, here's what you will do.

1. Use callback humor to re-engage the conversation. This will allow you to recall a funny moment from your date, giving you a natural segue to setting something up.

2. Be direct after chatting a little bit and say, "I had fun with you on <day>, want to go <activity> on <next day for date>"

If she doesn't respond or she's not receptive, you have your answer on whether you should go on your next date.

Choosing the Right Activity

Picking the right activity for your next date can make a big difference. Try something new that you both might enjoy. If you had dinner on your first date, maybe go for a hike or visit a museum this time. The goal is to keep things fresh and exciting.

A two-part date, like grabbing lunch and watching a movie, can also be a great way to mix things up. This way, you get to spend more time together and explore different sides of each other.

Keeping the Momentum Going Over Text

After a successful second date, you'll want to keep the momentum going.

Talk about recent events in your life and find small excuses to tease her—appropriately! This helps build a connection and keeps the excitement alive.

Remember, the key is to enjoy each other's company and not to overthink things.

Managing Expectations and Emotions

Avoiding Overthinking

Overthinking can be a real buzzkill. If you find yourself obsessing over every little detail that happened on the date, take a step back.

Focus on the positive moments and try not to read too much into things.

It's only been two dates, man.

It's important to enjoy the process of getting to know someone without letting anxiety take over!

Instead, try to just live in the moment and savor the time you spend together.

Evaluating If She's A Good Match

Reflecting on Your Dates

After a few dates, it's important to take a step back and think about how you feel when you're together.

Be honest with yourself about whether your energies and desires match. Do you enjoy your time together? Are you excited about seeing them again? These reflections can help you understand if there's a real connection.

Recognizing Red Flags

You might notice things that don't quite fit as you get to know each other better. That's okay. Not everything will align perfectly in any relationship.

Pay attention to these signs and decide if they're deal-breakers for you. Remember, dating is about finding out what works and what doesn't.

It's okay if things don't always match up. The goal is to find someone whose differences you can embrace and whose values align with yours.

Conclusion

If there's anything that you take away from this article, it's this:

The most important thing you need to do is keep things slow and steady. Don't rush into anything or set high expectations.

Just keep flirting and having fun while being as close to your authentic self as possible.

Remember, you're still getting to know each other. Keep communication open, share your thoughts, and enjoy the journey. Whether it leads to a third date or something more, just let things flow naturally. Most importantly, have fun and be yourself, dude.