The Key Secret To Taking Better Dating Photos

Here are some phrases that you may have heard a woman say before when you asked for an opinion about some photos:

"It's all about the vibe"

"I don't like his vibe"

"Idk his pics just aren't the right vibe"

"The vibe is off"

Men generally have no real clue what this means, women on the other hand, can totally understand something as seemingly unquantifiable as "vibe" because they FEEL it.

What women are basically saying is that you either don't look like a good time for some reason, or you seem like a mediocre to poor sexual option.

If you don't know me, I go by Boro Bang Bang Boogie. I run a dating photography business called MatchGods, where I advocate for paying particular attention to the proposition values in your profiles by choosing the type of pics that make women FEEL something.

Sure, you might be able to get a couple of matches by just standing somewhere and looking your most attractive - or sitting somewhere while you're dressed your best. But that will only get you so far. In my opinion, that's like 20-40% of a profile (depending on the guy), the rest is using your pics to tell even just a little bit of story, these stories contribute to the vibe.

Portraying A Vibe Through Your Profile Photos

How have I always done this?

1. Through the use of props, it's just an easy way to say something without saying it, no matter what kind of prop it is 
2. Obviously, the setting for the photo
3. And the most undervalued, and most important component to making a woman FEEL, spiking her emotions, just through your visuals; and that's subcommunication. 

We'll call it subcomms for short. With the right subcomms, you can literally just be sitting there or standing there, doing nothing necessarily special in particular but still telling a story. Whether it be with a certain look in your eye or a certain positioning of your body in the moment, humans can instantly assess you visually and draw some pretty interesting conclusions about what might have been going on in the moment. 

Defining Subcomms

My own little definition of subcomms, when we're talking about visuals, is simply:

"HOW is this man?"

• How is he by the way he walks, by the way that he stands among other men and/or women?

• How is he by the way he reacts to the environment, how is he by the way he looks into the camera or looks at others?

• How is he by the way he fixes his mouth to speak a sentence, etc etc.

If it sounds precise and complicated, that's because it is.

Slightly different expressions, with slightly different body language, convey completely different vibes!

Why are subcomms important when it comes to online dating photos?

A woman can feel all types of ways about you by how she perceives HOW you are, even in just one moment of just one pic or video.

This is the reason I tend to work with guys rigorously on my photoshoots to make sure the subcommunication is on point. I make sure his body language and facial expressions are hitting a number of various notes to ensure that when a woman sees him in these moments, it's going to spike all the "right" emotions.

There have only been two clients I've shot who came into a shoot with great subcomms. They understood this because they understood how important they can be when meeting women in real life and have pretty much mastered them, as well as how to deliver and project sexual energy with very little use of words and make women reciprocate to that and gain compliance instantly.

A handful of others were able to pick up on my coaching very quickly (within 20-30 minutes) but with a majority of men, we have to work at it, but by the end of the shoot, they develop a sort of intuitive understanding of how to move, how to sit, how to walk in a way that will convey that BDE (BIG DICK ENERGY) that women will respond to. 

How Do Guys Fail In Their Online Dating Photos?

Being one dimensional

Some guys will literally just end up standing or sitting there in pics with the same exact look on their faces. It's usually some straight-faced, blank look - looking directly into the camera or off-camera.

Whether you know it or not, with every picture you take, you're trying to tell the world something about you. Having a particular facial expression or body language that fits the moment or fits your desire is only going to assist you in telling that story.

Being two dimensional

The most common form of this is the guy who has graduated from college, just standing there looking bland. He doesn't knows if he should just stand there and look bland OR smile.

Whoopty-fuckin-doo.

Fellas, understand that we express ourselves in a multitude of ways, daily; in conversation, in reflection, in focus, and in reaction. You have only to scratch the surface in a photo, and you can make a woman feel something without even saying a word.

Side note: The two-dimensional guy usually has the problem of seeming like too much of a nice guy because he rarely can telegraph anything other than "serious" and "friendly."

Confusing good posture, with good subcommunication

Good posture has great long-term benefits to your health, body, how you feel, and how you communicate in your day to day. But good posture is not necessarily the most appealing visually, a lot of times it can just make you look like you have a stick lodged smooth up the booty hole.

I tell my clients this all the time:

The same way that women are seen as more attractive when they curve their bodies as they pose, is very similar to how a man can also get that effect, just to a lesser degree.

What this means is that you should slouch a little when you're taking photos. Curve your body just a bit to match how you're feeling. Not only can it accentuate your V shape (broad shoulders, to slimmer waist ratio) but certain "bad posture" can help communicate a more aggressive, attractive energy.

Using Apps Like FaceApp To Do The Heavy Lifting

Listen, I use FaceApp when editing most of my (and my clients) pics too! It's a wonderful tool, but take my word for it.

After editing hundreds and hundreds of pics, FaceApp is the MOST effective, when you give it a little assistance at the time of taking the picture. In other words, if you can get the "fuckboy smirk" even 20% right, FaceApp will render the expression in a much more complete way and turn that 20% into 100% sex appeal, which will elicit attraction in the way you desired.

How To Telegraph The Right Subcomms

I do A LOT of work on site of my shoots, giving guys the specific psychology that would need to be implemented at any given scene to elicit the type of emotion we're looking for. Some are very simple, some are much more complex (like the "as if she took it," if you know you know 😉).

We'd be here all day if I were to give you all the different mindsets, tricks, and tools I employ, but to start I'll give you a few.

Words That Trigger The Right Energy In You

From my own research and practice with guys, I've found that there are words that can transcend the mind and project through the body with practice. In the moment when your friend or your photographer is clicking away, utilize these words to get you into a particular kind of energy:

• Mischief
• Arrogance
• Concern
• Curiousity / intrigue
• Lust
• Haha! (Joy)
• Aggression
• Contentment (satisfaction)

The point isn't necessarily to nail any one particular kind of look, the point is to get you into an expressive state when you're in front of a camera so that when you want to convey a dominant vibe or something more fuckboy-like, you have a better understanding of how to do that and so that you have much more of a range of pictures to choose from as your final shot. 

Understand that your face has muscles, if you can recall your own reference experiences with these words (or just look at images and replicate them) and practice, work those muscles out a bit, these words can help give you the subcommunications that will show up in pics in particular ways that give you that extra OOMPH.

Don't Plant Both Your Feet On The Ground

Here's a tip for sitting down. You should rarely have both your feet planted on the ground with toes pointed outward. Again, probably good natural posture, but terrible visually. Instead, kick 1 foot out, slide one foot back in, and point your toes very slightly inward.

Capture A Moment

That moment right before you take an action or in the beginning stages of action can be every man's most attractive moment. For example:

• Putting on a jacket
• Sipping from a glass
• Pulling out your phone

The best body language usually has a definite sense of purpose to it

Get In The Right Mindset

Get in the mindset of treating the camera either like a very close friend or a super attractive girl when it's on you. And if you can, have a very close friend off-camera, to communicate with while shooting. If not, ACT as if a very close friend or attractive girl is off camera.

If we're not taking candid, genuine, in-the-moment shots, then what we're attempting to do here, is simulate it. Simulate that this picture was taken in the moment of something unique going on in our lives. If your subcommunication isn't reflecting that in at least SOME of your pictures, then I'll just say that chances are, your profile is going to come across slightly or mostly boring.

A List Of Notes From One Of My Clients

Here's a list of notes one of my clients compiled directly after our photoshoot for his own future use, based on things I was saying while coaching him:

• Avoid limpness of wrist
• Don't hyperextend your limbs
• Use more relaxed facial expressions
• Don't point feet outward so much
• Spread your legs out more
• Don't be too squashed when leaning against things
• When turning your head, try to turn at a bit of an angle tilted forward
• Part your lips slightly, rather than having them closed
• Relax your eyes
• Glance up without moving your whole head

Remember to do the following things:

• Take a more aggressive stance
• Take a more relaxed stance
• Simulate you are about to do something
• Subtly curving your body posture is visually appealing
• Chew gum to improve your jawline

Conclusion

All the pictures above as well as the photos in the video below on my Instagram are from my own photoshoots. I shoot all over, my last two recent shoots were in Vegas with my boy Aaron, and I had three other shoots in Tampa before that!

It's one thing to have a very technically and aesthetically pleasing picture. That's great.

But what's even better is when your subcommunication leads the charge because that's the main thing that's going to make her feel.

If you want more examples, check out my Instagram page MatchGods, and get started on booking a shoot today.